Caregivers: Some advice to avoid

"Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it"-- Charles Swindoll
"Oh, shut uuup!" -- Skunk Totem to Charles Swindoll

The author of this crap needs to walk in my shoes (and those of many of the others who have already responded) not for a mile, but until [response self-censored]. I guess I cannot add much that hasn't already been said, and although our outrage may be justified, it's no excuse for me to blast her with verbal skunk spray.


Despite advances in psychiatry/medicine that shows the origin of emotional stress is brain function and that it leads to physical illness, the mindset illustrated by Ms. Whiteside and Charles Swindoll is harder to eradicate than AIDS, chicken pox and shingles (not the building material).

I'm never surprised to hear when a person thought to be cheerful and upbeat commits suicide. Those folks have learned to hide it because expressing their feelings yields this junk. The fact that people actually make money writing it makes me furious.

Unseen effects of employment discrimination

This is the third time a window on this vehicle has been hit by vandals in the dark of the night. The owner is a foreclosure refugee. He lives with friends on a block developed before the Model T; the houses have no driveways and residents must park on the street. Apparently window-shooting is a sport among local lowlifes.

A couple years ago, the guy who owns it was a top candidate for a job, but the would-be employer discriminated against him on account of his credit record. With that job, he would have caught up on mortgage payments. That means Wells Fartgo (WF or WTF?) would not have foreclosed on his house (with an attached garage). The employer ass-umed that this applicant's bad credit signaled a thief. Congratulations, dumbasses: Instead of preventing crime, you in effect caused three cases of vandalism and an attempted burglary (foreclosed-on buildings attract trouble).

Homeowner kills herself after bank foreclosed on her.

A tragic story about Carlene Balderrama, a foreclosed homeowner who committed suicide. While the bank can't bear all the blame, I can't help but wonder if they could have done more to work out a payment arrangement. How big was the mortgage debt compared to the bank's profits? It's hard to believe a spouse and parent would take oneself away from his or her loved ones unless one absolutely couldn't see another way out.

Sadly, this probably isn't the last time that a foreclosure turns lethal. I've written before on how our society could do a lot better at handling depressed and suicidal people. These deaths are preventable - but not by giving the person the message that there is something wrong with the way he or she feels.

I feel for Mrs. Balderrama and her family.